User talk:Ocaasi

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Thank you Jake for keeping a cool and calm head during the events at WCNA. I'm grateful for your empathy and kindness where I would surely be lacking. Ckoerner (talk) 20:37, 22 October 2025 (UTC)[reply]
Hey Ocaasi. We didn't get to catch up this time, but [1] just a note that I appreciate you 'round these parts. — Rhododendrites talk \\ 14:29, 23 October 2025 (UTC)[reply]

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Hello, Ocaasi. You have new messages at Wikipedia talk:Arbitration Committee/Noticeboard.
Message added 05:49, 23 October 2025 (UTC). You can remove this notice at any time by removing the {{Talkback}} or {{Tb}} template.

Feel free to ignore this; I just realize that you haven't edited for a few weeks and so might not see a ping. -- Tamzin[cetacean needed] (they|xe|🤷) 05:49, 23 October 2025 (UTC)[reply]

Saw it. Thank you for asking! Ocaasi t | c 05:57, 23 October 2025 (UTC)[reply]
Thanks for your response! And per your request I'll extend no "sympathy or concern", but please know I'm wishing you all the best. For me, in the situation I was in years ago, it was months of playing things back through, thinking of all the things that could have gone wrong... I'd handled the situation just about perfectly, but I kept thinking about things like "What if he'd been farther away and I'd had to choose immediately between rushing him and talking him down?", "What if he'd just drawn rather than threatening to draw", etc. In the long run it's probably one of the traumas I see as most formative: I learned some important things about how I respond to an imminent threat, and it put a lot of other things in my life in perspective. But it took years to fully get to that frame of mind.
More generally, I just want to say, your essay that ran in the Signpost in 2016, which @Legoktm showed me a few years ago, was really impactful to me, and steered the development of both User:Tamzin/On mental health and "On the backrooms". I've been thinking about it a lot the past week or two, even before your name popped up regarding WCNA, because I recently hit the point—13 years removed from when I first spiraled out, 5 years removed from my low, 2 years removed from when I first felt kind of okay—where I just realized, wow, mental illness isn't a significant hindrance to my quality of life any more. Not cured, but solidly Better™. And as I process that, I realize I've read very few descriptions of recovering from long-term depression. Not because it's that rare, I don't think, but maybe because most people don't want to look back and don't want to be vulnerable to the world about a past version of themself very different than the version they now put forward. But writing about that is so important, for everyone else dealing with how there's ... no one time when sanity returns, if there is such a defined state. But suffice to say that it builds upon moments. I'm really grateful that you did that. To pay that forward, I recently drafted some thoughts of my own about the lows and highs of a gradual recovery, which I'll probably post somewhere once I've had a bit more time to adjust to the strange new reality of life generally not being difficult. Even as someone who's been pretty open about their condition(s), it's a little scary to think of talking openly about some things I've been through. But the lesson I learned from what you wrote is that it's important to show how low the lows can be so people have context for why "I'm okay now" is such a big deal. So, again, thank you for that. -- Tamzin[cetacean needed] (they|xe|🤷) 06:57, 23 October 2025 (UTC)[reply]
Hugs. Love. Congratulations on your recovery. May it continue solidly! Ocaasi t | c 08:33, 23 October 2025 (UTC)[reply]

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Not everybody is easy to love. To paraphrase a Judean preacher, it is ordinary to love those who love you, but supernatural to love your enemies and to will the good of those who have only caused you distress. For your act of extraordinary compassion, you've earned this barnstar. ~ Jenson (SilverLocust 💬) 16:21, 23 October 2025 (UTC)[reply]

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The Real Life Barnstar
Your actions during the crisis at WCNA took just as much courage as those of Pharos and Fuzheado, and were just as important. Thank you, Jake, for your heroism. QuicoleJR (talk) 16:27, 23 October 2025 (UTC)[reply]

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